It has become obvious to strangers that I am expecting. This state of affairs seems to silently invite everyone's opinions.
Last night at the PAC (PTA) meeting a lady said to me, "Number Four!?! You'll figure out how to plan these things sooner or later."
The other day at the shoe repair shop, the old man on the cobbler's bench said, "Well, one of these day's you'll learn what's causing the problem and be able to stop it."
My kids' former piano teacher asked in a secretive voice, "Was this planned!?"
Why does the same etiquette not apply to pregnancy that applies to so many other things?
When was the last time someone said to you, "You know you really are fat. I'm sure you'll figure out what to do about it sooner or later." ?
Or, "Your kids are monsters, this parenting book will explain what to do to fix them." ?
Or, "Did you want your house to look this way!?" ?
It is all I can do to resist saying something very shocking to remind them how I arrived at this state in the first place. It would probably cause quite a silence.
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I think all those comments are people trying to be funny who aren't too funny. They lose the funny vote. But I think your comments are very funny if said to the right person. But maybe your mother is the ONLY right person!
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You make me laugh SO hard, which I so needed today! I agree with you and have to say we got those comments too, with Kianna and Matthew!
What's the shocking thing you'd say?
Hi Mindy!
That's a funny, funny question. It's nice to read your comments to Sariah. Hope all is well with you and your family.
Love,
Sariah's Mom
I'm Mindy's friend, Aby. Don't worry, I'm not a weirdo (well at least not TOO weird).
I was reading through your blog, I remember Mindy talking about you so much in college.
Anyway, I definitely think you SHOULD have said something snarky!! Come on, these people deserve a little snark.
I cannot count the number of times I've been told "Looks like you've got your hands full" in regards to me being out and about doing anything and everything with my 3 littles. The really annoying part to me is that it's always said in a down, head-shaking way. And it's NEVER said when my kids are actually being monsters. It's just in passing, like it's the worst thing in the world to have kids. "Aren't they just SUCH a pain?" seems to be the general world consensus now.
I've now gotten SO scared to get pregnant again, for the stupid fear of what people will say and think. Not that it will stop me, but I dread their reaction. I'll have to come up with something really great to say. What were YOU going to say? Maybe it'll inspire me!!
luvs, aby
I can't say the shocking things I've thought of becuase my mother reads this blog. But I'm sure it would have something to do with sex which always sets people a little on edge. Especially when you're candid and don't use euphemisms.
But, my answer to the number of kids thing is in my post called, "Which Opinion is Really Mine?" And I really DO say that and more on a reasonably regular basis.
Good Luck, Aby.
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